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Selfishness is a common phenomenon in human society. Why does it occur? Why its manifestations are so painful to others? What are the sources of its origin?

A selfish person thinks only of himself, cares about himself, loves only himself, admires himself, and so on.





Where does the selfishness in man? On this subject, writes Irina Lebedeva specially for .

Like everything else: from my childhood!

Selfishness is instilled and raised the child for two reasons.

The first is the lack or complete absence of intimacy with parents (or those who nurtures and raises a child), lack of true love (as energy).

The second reason is excessive care and custody of the child (in fact: the substitution of true love). Consider these two reasons in more detail.

Lack of parental love as energy in relation to the child.

It is a common phenomenon in the lives of children. Parents do not know and do not feel like you need to love the child. If a child grows in a situation when he can't come to the loved one with the trouble, challenge, pain, anxiety, error, as well as his joy, discovery, a new feeling – this is a clear indication that trusting, emotional relationships in the family there.

The reasons for the lack intimacy in the family lot. But in this article we will not dwell on them. We need to understand where are the egoists.

So, the child becomes accustomed to the fact that he needs to solve its internal problems, to be alone with your feelings. And it becomes his program. Growing up, becoming an adult, the man, not got experience of sincere and open communication, unbiased adoption, is included in the independent and not in need of anyone's assistance and support.

It by and large don't need anyone. He could solve everything yourself, for yourself and about yourself. The image of such independent person is actively supported by the media, advertised and promoted.

And then man sucks work, their livelihoods, and the chance to detect a trap in which it resides. Although...chance, as they say, is always there. Here you need to learn to listen to your heart, your soul. Since the initial memory of what actually needs to be the person is always present in us.

We just have to listen, to stop, to think, to feel... By and large, people only need something to stop, be attentive, be willing to understand the situation. And that's all, and the answers will come by themselves. But there is a new trap: "I know!" Yes, he knows! As the saying goes: he and his mustache!

Thus, to summarize about the first cause of selfishness in a human being: the child is brought up without emotional intimacy, and accustomed to be independent and never need. And if he needs no one, then why be right for someone? Why be affectionate, considerate, loyal, generous... you name it!? Why??? It is not for nothing!!! And so good!

Consider the second reason. Excessive care and guardianship of the child. Why it occurs. Very simple! Parents, not being able to give your child the energy of love (complete acceptance of the child, release him from his ambitions, the recognition space of the child, his personality, etc.), secretly feel inadequate, that is, feel their parent mistake.





Unable, unwilling, afraid, they rush to the super parenting! Begin to take care of the child, "lay everywhere straw", give the child a million circles for development and so on. Thereby calming his feelings of guilt, often unconscious sense of guilt. Parents just begin to live for the child, in other words, they steal from their own child his childhood years!

What a child feels in this situation?The child took his life: for him solved everything, anticipate everything, is everything, he is not allowed to be themselves... And all this, mind you, under the slogan "All best-to children!" So maybe not the best? Give the child space to start! Just his personal space and right to study the world into which he came!

To summarize for a second reason. Man, growing up in a situation of hyperopic, accustomed to live on all ready, getting used to the fact that he is all serve, getting used to the fact that it is already all thought out for years to come.

Now add to that the result of the first reason, and before us looms a portrait of the EGOIST!

So: selfish – people who don't need anybody, and to whom all should serve.

Sad.

But man is a unique creation! The creation, which is in constant search and movement! Now you know why. Add to this your knowledge and start to change! Me! Go back to your true human and divine nature! Since God made us in the image and likeness!

But the way man! That its quality and properties: love, generosity, strength, faith, acceptance, forgiveness, kindness, dedication, beauty... you name it!

 

Author: Irina Lebedeva, exclusively for the

 

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Source: Irina Lebedeva