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The loss of its value. The trauma of rejection. Where is she from? From the childhood. One of the universal traumas. Fear of rejection, Brasenose, neljubimaja.

And if you think that the trauma received in childhood in childhood and remains forever, it is not so. Adult life of the former outcast child is a permanent escape, and myself in particular, attempts to hide, to disappear, to become invisible.





If someone believes that the injuries the person received in childhood remain there forever and do not cause him any problems in his adult life, he is seriously mistaken. Adult life the former rejected child is a permanent escape, attempts to hide, to disappear, to become invisible.

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If someone believes that the injuries the person received in childhood remain there forever and do not cause him any problems in his adult life, he is seriously mistaken. Adult life the former rejected child is a permanent escape, attempts to hide, to disappear, to become invisible.

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If someone believes that the injuries the person received in childhood remain there forever and do not cause him any problems in his adult life, he is seriously mistaken. Adult life the former rejected child is a permanent escape, attempts to hide, to disappear, to become invisible.

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If someone believes that the injuries the person received in childhood remain there forever and do not cause him any problems in his adult life, he is seriously mistaken. Adult life the former rejected child is a permanent escape, attempts to hide, to disappear, to become invisible.

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If someone believes that the injuries the person received in childhood remain there forever and do not cause him any problems in his adult life, he is seriously mistaken. Adult life the former rejected child is a permanent escape, attempts to hide, to disappear, to become invisible.

Source: www.yourfreedom.ru/travmy-cheloveka-travma-otvergnutogo/Все the materials posted on the site belong to their respective owners and are provided for informational purposes only. Illegal implementation of punished by the laws of the Russian Federation: copyright and related law. Reproduction of material from www.yourfreedom.ru prohibited by law

If someone believes that the injuries the person received in childhood remain there forever and do not cause him any problems in his adult life, he is seriously mistaken. Adult life the former rejected child is a permanent escape, attempts to hide, to disappear, to become invisible.

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Often it is the children that initially did not want, or are children of parents who abandoned them. Or child was not born the gender that parents wanted. Sometimes these injuries happen and in children in a seemingly happy family, where the parents are cold and don't love them.

The first reaction of human beings, felt the uselessness, the desire to escape, to disappear.

A child who is already born, but the original feels its uselessness — "running away" from life, he has no desire to emerge. And because these children "feed parents" deny ourselves, escape into your thoughts, dreams and fantasies.

Rejected prefers not to get attached to material things, for he is "not worthy" material, like life itself. Also it is not tied to the people, isolating yourself from them and considering a relationship with people cause of their suffering.

In adult life, getting away from material pleasures and from a relationship, causing difficulty in his sexual life. These people create a situation in which be rejected sexually, themselves or refuse sex.

How is the trauma of rejection?

Being unloved by a parent of the same sex, the child creates to it the mutual feeling of dislike and rejection, until the hatred. As parents we are models, with which we sculpt our personality. And then, being of the same sex with the unloved parent can't accept yourself and love yourself.

But the need for acceptance and there are people who are experiencing similar suffering, constantly looking for the love of the parent of the same sex, often trying to see the "parent" in other people. Such people often become teachers or bosses. He will consider himself as being incomplete until they win the love of "parent". He is very sensitive to the slightest comments from this "parent" and is always ready to decide what he rejects.

As for the parent of the opposite sex, the person himself is afraid to push him away and restrain themselves in their actions and statements towards him.

Rejected doesn't believe in its value, he puts himself in anything. And for this reason it uses all means to become perfect and gain value, both in their own eyes and in the eyes of others.





Rejected lives in limbo: if he was elected, he doesn't believe it himself rejects – sometimes to such an extent that, in fact, provoking this situation; if not elected, he feels rejected by others.

The first step towards solving the problem of rejection is the recognition of the existence of the injury. After all, if the injury is not cured and people subconsciously expect rejection, it attracts the situations in which it happens. It is important to take responsibility for what happens, as long as man believes that all his misfortunes are the fault of other people, the injury can not be eliminated.

Consent to the existence of injuries is a big step towards solving. And then maybe turn around to face her and include a solution to this problem in their own life objectives. To stop running from your pain, to feel it and transform. After all, our trauma is always the reverse side of our CALLING, of our social talent.

 

Author: Lokotkova Marina

 

P. S. And remember, just changing your mind — together we change the world! ©

Source: www.b17.ru/article/543/