10 motives that you want to make happy or unhappy Bashny.Net

The irony is that one motivation that makes you happy, able to transform into its opposite and leads to the fact that you feel disgruntled and dissatisfied with their lives.

Consider these urges and try to find out why this is happening and what needs to be done to good motives did not go bad.

 





©Emanuela Lepadatu

Happiness is a concept very difficult to define it with words, but there are three questions the answers to which will allow you to understand whether you're going in the right direction.

• Do I live a full and rich life?

• Do I love sincerely what you do?

• Do I make sense?

It's possible that having the answers to these questions, if you don't feel completely happy, you realize that it is very close to it and do it right. The ten senses, impressions, and sensations that pass from one to the other, and will help you understand what makes you happy and what is unhappy. Change and suffering from changes When we change, or go through a new experience, the brain produces a certain amount of dopamine which makes people happy and motivated. Someone thinks that the dopamine effect just for fun and has nothing to do with happiness, but it is very related things and cannot be separated. Of course, the pleasure is not complete happiness because it is momentary, however, without pleasure is not possible to feel happiness until the very end. Parts of the brain that are responsible for both processes are identical. You can feel pleasure and be happy in principle, but can't experience happiness without pleasure. Not all change is good for us. Not only because of that man becomes worse as a person, but for the reason that change associated with suffering from the changes. The first type of suffering is the feeling that we lose something. It makes sense, because if we want to become more optimistic, we lose our inner pessimism. Brain comfortable to remain in the state, which he already knows, so even a positive change can be seen as a negative condition from the loss of the old. Pondering the prospects for a new job can lead to sadness, because we are accustomed to the old. And no matter what a new job will bring only benefits, we want to stay in a comfortable condition. When we diet, we experience suffering from the fact that we won't be able to eat delicious and familiar food. The second type of suffering— the fear to change his identity. The habit is so ingrained in our consciousness that the new habit becomes truly painful.

The third type of suffering — the feeling that the changes will bring pain. We think that better not be, I doubt that we'll be just as comfortable. We can imagine a picture of a future in which we become more miserable than it is now. Even if we clearly understand that change will benefit the brain still leads to strange arguments and we are inclined to believe him. These three types of suffering, past, present and future that makes our task a little harder. Focus only on the positive impact of changes. Identify all doubts and study each of them separately. Cultivate optimism and faith in yourself.


©Emanuela Lepadatu Challenge and fear of failure to develop their potential, we need to throw myself new challenges. When we challenge and achieve the goal, this brings our personality to a new level. You feel that you accomplished something significant and it gives him a feeling of happiness and significance. Happiness arises when we achieve new heights, proud of himself overwhelms us and we experience the blissful feeling. Some people like myself simply for the fact that they exist, but we cannot say that this respect is deserved. True self-esteem arises when you realize that you have done something that has raised the bar and sticking to it. Other people see this and begin to respect you. All this together gives a real feeling of happiness. Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi in his book "Flow" describes a condition that occurs in a person when he sets the target, which is a little more complicated than all that he had done this before — it keeps interest in the process and causing a huge burst of joy after achieving success. If the task was too big, the man lost confidence and got stress instead of happiness. Fear of failure is a consequence of the call, if we are not very confident in themselves and their abilities. Many people have a fear of failure occurs automatically after any call. But with such a habit must be fought. There's nothing wrong with a small portion of fear, which occurs before a complex challenge, but if fear arises in any situation is not normal. Train yourself to think that you grow, when you set a serious goal. No one can give you guarantee that you will achieve success, but in the process the way you will get a huge amount of experience and learn many things. Always remember is not about the ultimate goal and the path. Alert to how to become a little smarter and more experienced, it will have moving forward. Don't think about failure, do your best and take your chances.

Creative expression and anxiety about time and reward

When you create something new, this process completely absorbs you. Any kind of art makes people happy, because it represents the birth of new ideas, something not previously existed. The joy of creating a new one cannot be compared with anything else. You gave life to a new idea, and it makes you happy. The creative task is done, you reached the goal, and therefore can be happy with yourself and respect yourself. You show your uniqueness. All consider themselves unique, however, is an imaginary uniqueness and it means nothing. Therefore, creativity is more eloquent than any words. It shows you and others what you are capable of. Any creative work takes time. This stops many. Even when the person knows he can come up with a creative solution for a few minutes, he chooses a simple action on autopilot. Such a person believes that he has no time for creativity, because you need to act. We forget how to think creatively means to think effectively. Great designers are not just creating beautiful things that they create primarily functional things. If we spend a few minutes finding creative solutions, we will gain much more time than if you just act rashly. Remember this always. Craft small ideas and prepare yourself for the great.

Dating and fear of failure the New people allow us to feel alive, be more filled with emotions of other people. Of course, happiness is always within us, but the presence of nice and talented people makes life more rich and full. On the other hand, many people are afraid to be rejected both at the stage of Dating, and in the process of friendship and communication. This fear sits deep and is rooted in childhood when the child is not accepted in the new company, he withdraws into himself. Years pass, and the pain of failure remains. We need to understand that it's not as bad as it seems. Many people are looking for Dating, so if we recognize them in the crowd, can start a beautiful friendship. Even those people who seem closed in itself, actually crave Dating. And let the person you are trying to meet, you refused to friendship, that is no reason to sprinkle ashes on his head and think that life is over. Do not worry and look no further. The world is full of wonderful and interesting people. Learn to find the approach to people and to understand how to gain them. The significance and time constraints If you feel meaningful, you happy. If you are significant for his family, for his employees and friends, you get the answer to the question "do I sense?". Happiness occurs when you feel that need close people and that they appreciate you. In order to become meaningful, need to say NO to many other cases and cease to be distracted by unnecessary things. This results in a stupor of many people. To be a significant difficult, so they spend time on something else. This contradiction can be solved in an inefficient way leads to the feeling of unhappiness. Also interesting: the Suffering is a legitimate way to relax the Senses and emotions — pointers on the way Stop focusing on the things that lead to instant gratification and focus on what is really important to you. Because the family for you is most important in life, so make it proud of you.published

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