When parental love is unreasonable Bashny.Net

"Children are sacred. All the best for the children. Even though children will live. The flowers of life. Joy in the house. Son, don't worry, dad'll do anything for you." Something I here this song terribly tired. And as a parent and as a former child and as a future grandfather. Maybe enough to love children? Maybe it's time for them as a human being?





 

Personally, I would not want to be born in our time. Too much love. Once you get the date of birth, you immediately become a puppet. Mom, dad, grandparents immediately begin to work on you your instincts and complexes. You are fed three throat. You call a child therapist. You for universal emotion dressed in jeans and a jacket although you're still even sit not learned. But if you're a girl, already in the second year of life you pierce your ears hang Golden earrings, which in whatever was wants to give a loving aunt Dasha.

By the third birthday all the toys is not placed in the nursery, and sixth in the shed. Day to day you first carry, and then drive to the shops of children's clothes, on the way rolling in the restaurants and slot machine halls. Gifted as part of the love mom and grandma slept together in one bed to ten years, is already starting to reek of pedophilia. And, Yes — I almost forgot! Tablet! The child must be a tablet. And preferably also the iPhone. Straight years with three. Because he is Serezha, his mother bought, and she is not so much money, much less us. Even Tanya has from the next group, although she did live with the grandmother.

Before school usually ends with "puppet time", and then begins a "corrective labour". Loving parents finally realize that they have done something wrong. A child excess weight, bad temper and attention deficit disorder. All this gives rise to the transition to a new level of captivating game play in a parent's love. This level is called as — "find a specialist". Now with the same enthusiasm you carry for dieticians, teachers, psycho, just neurologists and psychologists. Relatives frantically looking for some miracle that will allow magical healing to achieve results without changing their own approach to the education of the child. These esoteric practices is in fact spent a lot of money, nerves and sea time. The result — zero integers a bit tenths.

Yet this period is characterized by a desperate attempt to apply to the child the norms of the discipline and work ethic. Instead of sincerely to captivate the little man some interest, instead give him more freedom and responsibility — relatives lining up with a belt and scream. The result — the child learns to live under the lash, losing the ability to give us something to be interested in.

When the futility of the effort becomes apparent, I start preceded by a parental drive. Here, almost all loving parents suddenly begin their children to hate: "We for you, and you!" The only difference is that some of this hatred is expressed in complete surrender with a further direction to the child in an educational institution of a closed type (Suvorov military school, an elite British school), while others cut his head plate with the inscription "you are my cross!"

Accepting that nothing good from man is not left, parents with Tamikrest on the neck continues to make in his almost adult child personality. Otmazyvatsya from the army, organize a paid Department to the UNIVERSITY, give money to bribe teachers and current expenses, buy a apartment, car, pick up a sinecure in the best of their ability. If the nature of Tamikrest not too talented, even this strategy brings some more or less edible fruits — grows mentally crippled, but quite respectable citizen. That's just more often on healing the wounds of excessive parental love, children pay differently — health, lives, souls.

Cult of children has arisen in our civilization not so long ago — only some 50-60 years ago. And in many ways it is the same artificial phenomenon, as every year jumping out of marketing-the-box Coca-Cola Santa Claus. Children — a powerful tool for the promotion of race consumption. Every square inch of baby body, not to mention submillimetre souls, long divided between the producers of goods and services. To force a person to love himself such obsessive love is still quite difficult ethical or moral problem. And the love for a child make a half-turn. On counter turn on.

Of course, this does not mean that the earlier children did not like. Even as loved. Just before it was not geocentrical family. Adults did not play in free animators, they lived their natural life and as they grow up involved in the life of their offspring. Children were loved, but they are the first glimpses of consciousness are understood, which are only a part of a big universe called "our family". What is the elders who must be respected, there are younger, which you should take care is our business, in which it is necessary to join, there's our faith that must be adhered to.

Today, the market imposes on society a family recipe, built around the child. This is a losing strategy that exists only to extort money from households. The market does not want the family was built correctly, because then it will satisfy most of its needs itself, within itself. A poor family likes to give a solution to their problems on outsourcing. And this habit has long been the Foundation of entire industries billions of dollars. Ideally, from the point of view of the market, the father is not the one who will hold a with child weekend, going to the Park, ride a bike. The perfect father's which will be this weekend to work overtime to earn the two-hour visit to the water Park.

And you know what? And let's replace in this column the verb "to love" to something else. Ignore, do not care to be indifferent. Because, of course, such parental love is just one of the forms of egoism. Mad mother, the workaholic father, all this is nothing more than a game of instincts. Whatever we may have said there was about parenthood and sacrifice, the fatherhood-motherhood is rough pleasure, that kind of lovemaking, one big biology.

The beautiful Indian proverb: "a Child is a guest in your house: feed, educate and let it go."

To feed and fool can be educated — it is already difficult, but to be able to child from the first minutes of his life hiding from himself to let go — this is love. You're right as always, Chingachgook." published

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