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Have you noticed that when you write about the benefits of adult Mature women over young girl for men, you often describe the domestic convenience and emotional comfort that she can give him?

Some described qualities ("not annoying", "asks nothing", not "makes the brain") reminded me of the Old woman Shapoklyak Shrek: "It's good that you are so green and flat." You can go on the lawn and will not be seen.

I believe few women are happy to lie still and Shine.

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Comfort is an essential characteristic of life, few people are willing and able to live in discomfort few people deliberately choose a spouse, which would deprive him of comfort, but comfort is not what creates love.

Severe discomfort can quickly love to kill, it's true. But that love was born from the comfort of too little.

It's like a job. Comfortable working Desk, a dining room and a normal proximity from home is a very important advantages, but if you pay very little and the work is boring, people will want another.

Remuneration and interest is important, both in work and in love, and in studies, in sports, and you will not find such a resource, where it would not charge. Convenience — that is, the absence of extra stress and difficulties in third place. And on the first two: interest and reward.

Interest from the point of view of C. G. Jung — it is energy. Attraction, passion is energy traction. With all that we are interested in what we are attracted, we immediately formed an energy bond. Our attention, our time, our efforts begin to flow in the wrong direction, and we get pleasure from it. As soon as the interest ends, the connection is dropped, and now to keep there attention and wasting time, we need a strong will, the tension, and we get from this stress. That's what interest. It provides the flow of energy.

The reward that we receive and which is expected, that's all expand our capabilities, increase our influence gives us benefits for the future. This money and recognition that we receive for your effort invested. We want to do not only what we are interested and pleased, but also because it is good for us that tomorrow will make us a little richer and stronger than it is today. There is a connection: we can be interested something that is completely useless, and we might be interested to know that we are very useful. While rewards and interest intersect is not always and not all. Otherwise people would not spend so much time on nice, but useless or harmful. However, there is a connection.

So here is a perfect spouse if we decide to consider such a thing is a person who:

1) interesting

2) useful

3) comfortable

If you remember Three elephants of Marriage, :

1) interest is attraction and arousal of emotions, thoughts and feelings, that is the elephant Love,

2) use the benefits of the partner for its own growth, that is, the elephant-Esteem,

3) comfort — these are the best conditions of joint stay, that is the elephant Life.

Almost all the advantages of an adult woman was to the elephant (life is not only the material side, it is the comfort due to well-separated rights and responsibilities, the absence of wars and conflicts) and quite a bit to the elephant. About the elephant wrote almost none, finding probably no benefits.

But the interest, desire, love and lust reach — this is important. Of course very bad life, that is, the complete lack of comfort, able to quickly kill the love, you've seen this many times in life and in letters, too. But very often life gets bad due to the fact that love goes.

The default starts with all own investments look very large, and the attachment of the partner is small. And not do anything you want, and all of the other stands out with a rolling pin or ax. But it happens often because of the presence of a spouse in life there is more fun.

Meanwhile, have fun, attachments always seem to be not very large (fun.), and its investments seem to be very valuable (pleasure increases their value). So love makes almost any life beautiful, especially love. No wonder "with sweet heaven in a tent." It's true.

Use is also very important. If you pursue the thought that you "floundering" with this partner, your years are spent just like that, you're not growing, not using their opportunities, lose perspective, your love is unlikely to survive.

Actress run away from their husbands, which prevent them to play on stage. Artists throw wives that prevent them from writing. Very often women get mad at a small salary men, because they feel that they are women, deserve better: they need to dress better, to visit dear places, their children should get more opportunities, and they messed with the wrong man, and now youth is in vain. Familiar?

Men generally have other grievances. They often seem to be the wife not so materialistic, more economical and businesslike, they could not spend life in a boring office job, to do their job or some training, find creative work and to achieve much more. But due to a demanding (and lazy) wife they can't afford it. They come to the conclusion that the Union is harmful for them, takes more than it gives, so it is better to run.

So a sense of futility kills love. But love again it has a fabulous ability to create good. While the relationship is not settled despondency and boredom, and burn interest, the sea seems knee.

Love inspires feats. Besides own use is much less important than the benefit of a loved one (therefore loving people does not hinder, but help each other to develop). Yes it looks their own use otherwise, since other priorities.

A woman does not think like the wife in default, loses the wonder years and rides metro in an old coat when you could ride a car in a fur coat, earn her husband more. Her priority is not things, but the pleasure that she gets from communicating with her beloved husband, and her years spent not in vain.Only boredom thoughts that even no coats, no nothing. When man is happy, he forgets that he is wearing.

Therefore, the main components of the following love online:

1) be able to evoke and support my favorite person of interest in itself (affection)

2) to be useful for its development, to help realize the ability

3) create home comfort and reduce his stress level

Look at all the points in some points contradict each other. The buzz can bring something that is harmful, beneficial, may be what breaks the comfort. The high was very often at odds with the comfort, and the comfort high. Simultaneously maintain all three points is difficult, but all three have more or less ignored.

Little discomfort and can survive for kicks or use. But if the discomfort is too great, the buzz drown in it, and the benefit runs out, because severe discomfort creates stress and disease. No use for kicks people carry fairly easily, but only as long as won't be all that harmful and dangerous.

Here they have anxiety and thoughts about the fact that no pleasure is not worth it. That is, in the hierarchy of items it is important that each previous item is important the following, but if the following is very much affected, begins to suffer and the previous one.

However, the most important is the first paragraph. Interest (desire).

And when we compare an adult woman and a young girl, as in that problem, we need to pay attention to something.

Young girls resources image and love are connected, on average, better. These resources are not pumped, they just connected. Are external resources that youth gives them the most just. Yes, there are clumsy young girls, ugly, unsociable, dismal, these resources image and love poorly connected or disconnected at all. But the average girl is quite nice and romantic, so the image and love them still connected.

With the image everything is clear, they usually like to like. What about love? Their eyes light up at any mention of love, they quickly fall in love, they are trusting, curious, and of the loneliness they do not carry all the time eager to meet, dream of love, eager to love. This is podlucky resource. The resource is not pumped, so in the process of love they can get suffering, they cheated, they hurt, they disappoint, but the resource is connected, so they rush into love, find love, love love, it is of interest to them.

Now compare with a girl the average woman 40-50 years. Resources image and love the majority of these women are frustrated by, that is almost disabled. It is not like in the mirror, even so, not like others, it is no longer interested in their appearance frequently. Love? It is especially not interested (no interest — no energy directed to the resource).

She was disappointed and she's just too lazy to spend time on nonsense. She has no external resources and no image nor love, but the inside is also not there. For some, however, have a beloved husband. But her husband, even love, for many a friend or relative, a resource of love more about love and romance than its ties and spiritual kinship.

This involved the resources of family and friendship. The image engaged in order to please people. We see that the majority of adult women resources image and love still degraded.

All of the above only applies to average women, average. Pumped adult women exception. And here they have advantages over those who have resources of love and of the image — purely external, that is, to most young girls.

Pumped online the image can be reduced to the charm. And pumped a resource of love — of empathy.

Charm and empathy is not about how to create comfort and convenience, please note. It's about how to make the loved one's heart melt and his blood boil. It's about how to produce fire.

The charm is absolutely impossible without sincere love to his person (external I) is the quality of the narcissistic cat, as described by Freud. And most adult women betray themselves and stop loving your way when a little older. They are very beautiful in appearance, but they do not love themselves and everything to lose.

Not the physical aging takes away the charm, you will lose it when you stop liking yourself. Those middle-aged women who charm not lost on men produce the same impression on close communication (at a distance charm almost no effect). Just a very few.

And empathy is incompatible with the disappointment and rejection of the other. You write that with age develops empathy. To hell with two. Anything with age is not developed in itself (except disease). Empathy develops from a positive interpretation and accumulation of experience of love, and you, a, your experience interpret negatively.

You have the frustration of online love develops, not empathy. Read women's blogs, freaks, idiots, lazy and impotent was found to women 40 years and how they have their squabbles, saving up and sorted, not to forget. As they are, many angry and offended by men (and the men frustrated women). What is empathy? It is tightly sealed Windows and a machine gun.

Empathy is a constantly open door and a willingness to feel another person like yourself. No sympathy no empathy. Young girls like men, even polivitaminny, but love, and therefore empathy from them still more. Empathy is first of all confidence and curiosity to another. With age it is lost, unfortunately, most.

Although, it would seem that poles became more, and not be afraid so deceptions. But no, I'm afraid and protected by the high fence. And yet compete with each other in the description of the deformities and absurdities of men. And well if these women were lesbians or asexually (so and so do not care just). No, you describe the ugliness of men, but still start a relationship with them.

With so many negatives to them, closed them. Of course your relationship turn out shabby: two wise minnow, with a suspected witness for each other, not getting out from under the benches. And they end up rotten. You conclude that we should treat men even more wary, and the following relations are entering in this state the bad things that really matter.

In General, you don't like yourself, so the resource image is toast, you don't like men, so the online love kirdyk.

And all dumped reason of age.published  

Author: Marina Komissarova

P. S. And remember, only by changing their consumption — together we change the world! ©

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