Busily Sufferer: Trouble-free. Clever. Talented. A vampire Bashny.Net

Well, just the golden man!
The school has excellent, the institute too. It works as a bee. For everyone. Failsafe. Clever. Talented. It seems that the ride on it. After the institute often goes to graduate school and defended his thesis.

The efforts may be crowned with the fact that it will take a small position and rise by one or two steps up the ladder.




The trouble lies in the fact that he did not work in his talent. No, he is a good specialist. It can be a good teacher, but it would be better to be an artist. In the classroom, he plays more than teaching, but the students love it.

It may be sensible architect, but his true talent - the talent of the artist, it gives a lot of time drawing. It is sensible doctor, but it would be better to be a poet, he writes poems for all occasions.

Why busily sufferers do not achieve peaks in professional activities?

Summits in their professional activity is attained, because a lot of fun spending time with the realization of his true talent. Do not do it he can not, though, and grumbles when asked to write a poem, draw a picture, to sing at the party, and so on. D. But the talent for its development requires the full commitment of all forces and all time.

Often they win ratification in the amateur arts festivals, exhibitions of young artists, and so on. E., What is very proud of.

If the spin-off activities then becomes a major, all right. They find themselves and assert themselves. We know a lot of good artists, painters and poets, who used to work at all in the other areas.

By the way, leaders are often asked to organize the evening busily Sufferers, to issue a stand or to write a poem for the anniversary of colleagues, but to advance their career and do not think, because they consider them as people need, but still second-class citizens. Well, unless it seriously - to spend so much time on trifles? Thus, their talent sets them insurmountable obstacles to promotion.

Composer Borodin was a chemist, writers Chekhov and Veresaev doctors. There are many examples. But more such cases where carriers talents did not dare to give up work, which gives a guaranteed piece of bread, and indulge in a stormy sea of ​​life, where you can enter the open spaces of creativity, or perish in the depths of material deprivation.

Sufferers busily been dogged by controversy. By the age of 40, it is clear that their lives did not take place. The leaders of most satisfied, because are in a good subordinate, non-conflictual, nothing on claiming the employee.

The drama played out in married life. They will start to hurt. Comes home tired, they say that the pressure has risen (rambunctious sore aching heart). Wife puts them to the back of his head mustard (prepared diet meals, dripping Corvalol) and advises to go on sick leave.

But 30 minutes before the start of the day busily sufferers already in service (bulk cases, there is no one to replace them). The absence of great achievements at work does not allow them to abandon the social loads, and they like it.

Gradually, they bypass the less brilliant, but more motivated colleagues.

Diseases gradually tightened busily Sufferer more. Hypertension turns cerebral hemorrhage, pain in the heart - heart attack, ulcer becomes perforated, and our hero gets to the hospital

. Eric Berne about the nature busily Sufferers

E. Berne deciphered vampire essence busily Sufferers. The fact that by the time they love once wife (and it was for that) has long been disappointed in them. Diseases are for the Business Sufferer way of courting his wife.

As aptly noted by E. Byrne, is a dishonest manner. Much more honest look with a diamond necklace (with a spouse can even throw it in the face of her husband!). But it is completely powerless to cerebral hemorrhage, myocardial infarction and a hole in the stomach. She is forced to take care of him.

I know some couples where busily sufferers for many years came home only to sleep, even though it is not required that a wife were as fascinated by them, as in his youth. If they come home on time, they would have revealed the emptiness much earlier. But his wife actually spent her life straw widow. Yes and no claims like: does not drink, does not care for women, all drawn to the family

. How to identify and neutralize busily Sufferer?

To identify and neutralize busily Sufferer quite difficult. To say something bad against the slave-Sufferer busily impossible. He's a nice guy.

Sensitive, attentive, never fails. To do if you need your job. Head-busily sufferer always let a day or two. But the lack of a clear line management team leads to anarchy, which often hinders career development of employees. In addition, the reliability of its results in the fact that conflicts arise between subordinates.

Here is the story of one of my ward.
"The horror of my situation is that I can not even complain to anyone from the family. I am no one understands! But what do I do? I ask for the cases to let me go for the day. "No problem" - I hear an immediate response. I went over to his partner and ask him to me changed. It turns out that our business-like sufferer had already let go, and he was counting on my support.

Head to one side, and we swear to each other. The matter requires clear instructions, and he was satisfied with the endless meetings, playing in democracy. We quarreled because of the time of the meeting or the holiday schedule, and it comes out dry from the water. And you can not complain. It will say that once this boss does not like it, do not know what you need. »

What to do with the chief?

Not act with any suggestions. His desire that everyone has always been good, will lead to endless approvals, and you all fell out. Find your job and do it quietly. Stir busily sufferer will not, and that is fine.

And what wives busily Sufferers?

By the way, complaining of their share, they did not apply to me, but always feel tired and shook. Here, perhaps, suitable rule: replace "shall" with "forced". Immediately it becomes easier. You will give your time, your physical effort, but will not give the soul.

Author: Michael Litvak