15 things everyone should know the girl's father Bashny.Net

For those who want to build a warm relationship with the children. "From the people who know that I have four daughters and a son, I often hear is:" Four daughters? No luck as you! Think about what happens when they become teenagers? "To be honest, I feel sorry for these people. Understand that when you have four daughters - is a great wealth!

Every day we tell each other "I love you more than yesterday," - education and daughters - is a joy, not a burden. I'm a father for 11 years and during that time learned a lot. His experience, I was able to express 15 points, "- so begins the article with many children's father, Justin Riklefsa, who translated" Fireside ". Loving father understands that to build a warm relationship with your child, you need to understand it and make friends with him. And this list will help you in this.



1. She needs your love.

Learn how to show his daughter's love. She needs it more than money or gifts, the lack of communication that are not recoverable. Nobody in the world will not give her a sense of confidence and security as a loving father. It will grow and make mistakes, disappoint you, maybe sometimes abrupt and rude, maybe even want to leave home time. But you should not give her the slightest reason to doubt your love. She needs to know that you love her for who she is, and that in the parental home and its always easy to understand. Do not hesitate to talk about it out loud many times. Just look at her and say, "I love you».



2. It depends on you, a partner in life she chooses.

From your daughter's attitude to the choice depends on the person who would become her husband. If you are a good father, she will look for a guy who looked like you. If not, it will be very difficult to get married and find yourself someone. In affluent families with a loving father of little girls often say, "I'll grow up and marry Daddy." This is a good indicator. So you behave properly.



3. Listen to the music they listen to it.

When a girl becomes a teenager, she has a love for modern music which you do not always taste. Try to understand what it like this. Listen to CDs with her, go to a concert fashion group, so you have something to say. When you are traveling with a daughter in the car, do not switch the music she chose. In the end, remember that time when she travels with you, will soon be over. And resentment remains.



4. She sees how you feel about her mother.

It is the most important piece of advice in our list. You can only follow him, and the success of your relationship with your daughter is assured. It's simple: do not cease to show the children that you love their mother and cherish your marriage. Participating in a child's life, do not forget about your personal life. Take time to go together with his wife to the theater, a restaurant, arrange a short trip without children. Shows children that the wife is to have a higher priority than they are. This is useful not only to strengthen your marriage, but also for the formation of attitudes toward marriage of your children.



5. Do not keep away from her daughter when she becomes a teenager.

From 11 to 15 years, begins a difficult age, when your daughter will change appearance (becomes less beautiful), and internally, will be naughty and rude. Do not keep away from her in this difficult period, keep an emotional connection. Be aware of its problems, interests, activities, boyfriends and other things, so that she could speak to you for any help. Do not laugh at her if she took your razor to shave his legs. You should always treat her with love and understanding, no matter how much she - 5 or 15 years.



6. Engage her in sports, it strengthens the character.

To get from the girls grow up healthy and strong woman, she must fall in love with the sport, in which you can help her. Make her charge, take it with you to jogging or cycling, and teach push-ups, play sports in the air. Girls should not grow weak. Sport fortress will find spiritual strength and strength of character. After all, today womanhood - not only dresses with frills, this is the strength of body and spirit.



7. Take frequent, small holidays.

Childhood should remain in the memory of daughter's happiest memories. But this memory is formed small pleasures and events. For example, celebrate the 10th anniversary of the daughter of gatherings are not at the table, and a short trip for 3-4 days. Let her make a list of places or countries who want to visit it, discuss it together and choose an acceptable option for you. Entrust her itinerary and make a list of what to bring. On the road, instructed her to keep a diary. Do not forget your camera, so you make an album as a keepsake.

At the end of each week, see interesting films together, and then let everyone write their impressions. Or start on Sunday a gala lunch. Or to set up a tradition on Sunday to drink hot chocolate in a cozy cafe. At the weekend you can go on a short hike to interesting places in your city. Do not be lazy to come up with such an event, take pictures of them. Please fill in the emotional memory of your daughter's events held together with you.



8. Teach her that life is more important to give than to take.

Something amazing happens when children understand that the universe does not revolve only around them. That not only they need help, that the last piece of cake to be left to others. Explain to them that life will be better if we help others. What we must not think only of themselves, it is sometimes better to be last in the queue than others pushed aside, the first climb. That when you're wrong, you need to honestly admit it.



9. Stay close to the most important events in her life.

It is clear that the majority of fathers work, busy with their careers and they do not have much free time. But still - try not to miss important events in the life of his daughter, whether it's a concert at the music school, sports or exhibition of her drawings. And do not cease to praise her, regardless of the outcome. Even if the day you are invited to a football match, determine their priorities matches still repeated, and your daughter's childhood - no. It will take forever.



10. When you get home, turn off your cell.

A big mistake many fathers that came home, they are actually still missing. They do not come off the cell phone, answer letters, writing on Twitter, reading a page on Facebook. Meanwhile, your little girl waiting for you to pay attention to it. Turn off the phone at once, crossed the threshold of the house. Take some time to that which you have been waiting the whole day, play with her, read a book or just sit in an embrace and podurachtes. Keep in mind that very soon she will have other interests and she will not be at home, where she did not pay attention.



11. Learn how to weave braids.

Of course, this is purely a woman's business subsidiaries comb, to weave braids tails and tie, but the father should be able to, and this is just in case. Suddenly, you are alone with her daughter go on vacation? Moreover, experimental psychologists believe that the father should be able to not only do hair, and nails to paint her daughter, if necessary. This will show her that a man can be not only strong, but also gentle.



12. Walk with a daughter somewhere together.

At least once a year invite your daughter to "date" without a mother and other family members. Go with her to the movies, theater or a restaurant. Such meetings will show her how a man should treat a woman. Open the door for her car, helps to remove and put on his coat, saying compliments kidding, let her choose the restaurant that you want, and pay bills. Let her feel "beauty in a million." It will not ruin you. Make up your options, where and how to spend a few hours with her daughter. You can go to the park together on a bike or in a bookstore, but this event should be planned in advance, as the real date.



13. Explain to her that an attractive appearance - it's not all.

Psychologists believe that this father has to explain to his daughter that inner beauty is more important than the external, which is the inner content of a girl, her character, warmth, her self-esteem - the kernel, which will allow her to find the right path in life. Raising a daughter in today's world of sensual glamor standards very difficult. But that you can explain to her that to impress, no need to uncover every piece of his body.



14. Not missed childhood!

Life is not, and is racing at great speed. Is the person you are now necessary, which is calling you dad. Enjoy the role of the father, do not miss the childhood of your children - it will pass quickly, and do not have time to blink an eye!



15. Do not be afraid to ask for forgiveness from his daughter.

Many fathers do their best for their daughters, but they are not angels: it happens that the father says unfair words, is not fulfilling its promises. Do not hesitate to ask for forgiveness from his daughter, you are wrong. It's not your credibility will drop. If you can not ask for forgiveness, learn until it is too late. These words should come from the heart. Only this will make you closer with my daughter, and she will forgive you.



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